Who will you be in 2014?

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I think this infographic is so truthful and important to reflect on as we go into the new year. Who are you now? Who do you want to be in 2014?

A page I follow on Facebook challenged people to write 25 accomplishments they achieved in 2013. And it actually was very hard! The Husband had to help me out with a few. Why is it so easy to remember what went wrong, but so hard to remember what went right. It’s so simple to think of all the things you did wrong; failed to do; should have done…but to think about what you did archive takes more time than it should.

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So here is what I am thinking; in 2014 I refuse to make resolutions — but I do want to make plans. So look out for my post on plans, and be ready to make some of your own! Let’s focus on our successes this year, eh? Let’s focus on making ourselves what we are Proud to be, not what the world wants to box us into being. So be a nerd, be smart, be the best size 8/12/16/24 you can be, enjoy fresh bread and cheese with no remorse; if you fail to workout for a week keep loving yourself; if you don’t know what you want to be when you grow up — cool neither do I!; if you want to cook dinner for your husband every night – do it and still be a proud feminist! Let’s stop boxing ourselves in, and let’s start letting ourselves out — cause there is one thing I’m so happy I did that didn’t make the list … I let go on my honeymoon and found myself standing on the top deck of a pirate ship dancing in the rain off the beaches of Barbados. How cool is that? And things like that don’t happen when you box yourself into expectations — they happen when you let yourself go and experience life :).

Happy New Year — enjoy every moment you can! ❤

Modern Day Ado Annie: Confessions of a Chronic People Pleaser

“I’m just a girl who cain’t say no,
Cain’t seem to say it at all
I hate to disserpoint a beau
When he is payin’ a call!” — Ado Annie, Oklahoma!

I’m just a girl who cain’t (spelling accurate :D) say no. However, unlike Ado Annie in the musical Oklahoma! this has nothing to do with men.

I read an article that described people pleasers as individuals who:

… strive to keep peaceful relationships in our lives, balance, and often have a tendency to assist others in need. Hey, we care about them right? The problem is if you always feel compelled to help, or overextend yourself, it can come at the expense of your own happiness.

Like many people, I have trouble saying no to people. To events. To offers to be involved in this or that, even at the expense of my own happiness.  I cannot recall a time that I wasn’t involved in some sort of extracurricular activity(s). I’ve been overbooked and underpaid and a people pleaser since I was 6.

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Quotables: Moment of Reflection

‎”All my life I had been looking for something, and everywhere I turned someone tried to tell me what it was. I accepted their answers too, though they were often in contradiction and even self-contradictory. I was naïve. I was looking for myself and asking everyone except myself questions which I, and only I, could answer. It took me a long time and much painful boomeranging of my expectations to achieve a realization everyone else appears to have been born with: that I am nobody but myself.” – Ralph Ellison

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